“Change is never a matter of ability, it is only a matter of motivation and a compelling why.” ~ Tony Robbins
The goal of anyone experiencing infertility is to have a child. When times are trying, and you are adapting your life style in what might be challenging ways, that is the goal that needs to be kept in mind. Sometimes when you’ve been trying for a while, this ultimate goal can seem frustratingly unreachable so breaking it down into more manageable steps is key. That’s what we’re going to talk about in this chapter.
It is my belief that the most important step in achieving anything is the process of goal setting. Without a target, how can one hit it? With clear goals and vision, each choice you make throughout each day can be evaluated by asking yourself, is this choice bringing me closer to my dream?
As a doctor I determine my goals for treatment from the initial intake and the first appointment. By diagnosing the prominent signs and symptoms I feel are important to work on combined with our joint decisions about larger aspects of life and your family vision, we provide the framework for setting goals. These goals become a guide to ensure we are staying on the path that we have created together.
Once your goals are clear and you are doing everything in your power to obtain them, it is time to surrender. Not everyone is ready to hear this and it can be tough to relinquish control but but having faith in your body is of paramount importance. Patience is one of the primary attributes of a good parent and you might want to think of this time as a dress rehearsal for what’s to come.